What Do You Do?

 I sit back and I look at people and their struggles. They seek advice from their support group. You. And what do you say? How can you say you've been there when in fact you haven't been? I'm here for you, I understand, I get what you're saying. All these things people jump to telling someone struggling with life, yet, what does it all mean? Are you really there when they need you? What are the conditions? Are there any? Do you really understand? Have you in fact been there before? All of us are guilty of saying such things, but do we understand the words we throw around have meaning? Or do we just say them because we feel that's what is expected of us? Food for thought next time someone comes to you for advice.

 Also, when we are friends with couples, of any kind, from any part of the world, when they fight, bicker, get upset in any way, they, one of them, or both separately, come to you. What do you do? If you're smart you stay out of it, that is one messy mud puddle. But most of the time, you get dragged into these situations, and it's really hard to get out, you feel bad for not saying anything. Just remember tho, when they make up later, you're the one holding the guilt bag because you said something harsh about the other party. So how can you "be there" for your friends by not being there? You offer a shoulder to cry on, but make it known that you know things will work out soon, and you will not speak ill of the other person. If you are friends with them equally this is an especially hard thing, but one or the other you run the risk of making enemies, and if they're that kind of couple, you could lose a friend.

Just pondering on some thoughts I've been dealing with this week. On another note tho, m wedding is slowly impeding! As of midnight, I am exactly one yr away from the big day! I still have so much to do, but I am still very excited. Today I was supposed to get my last bridesmaid dress, but it turned out being the wrong dress. So I will have to wait til July, but that's ok, I can be patient.... For now. Lol now I have to get ready to put my down payment down for the venue, then try to figure out my colors. I have my colors, but I'm pondering changing one of them. Idk yet. We'll see. And sometime this month or next, I have to setup a photoshop for the save the dates, get them made up and sent out.. Ugh, so much to do! I honestly can't wait til the big day, but I think I'm more anxious to get everything done than enjoy the day. Lol